As a remote worker who bounces from place to place, it took me a while to figure out what I truly need to feel at home in a new location. Even after six years, there are times I still feel a sense of not belonging, and that's perfectly normal. So don't be too hard on yourself if you experience it too!
When it happens to me, I go straight back to the one thing that changes everything. And spoiler alert, it's not about finding that perfect apartment with a balcony overlooking the Eiffel Tower, or crystal-clear ocean water (although, that wouldn't hurt!).
For me, it's all about building a routine so I can feel at home, no matter where I roam 🥁
From Workspace to Weekend Vibes
Humans need a strong routine to feel a sense of control and predictability12 and to reduce stress and anxiety3. But that routine can be different for everyone.
So here are a few things I personally do to quickly create a strong routine when I arrive in a new destination:
- Carve a Work Sanctuary: First things first – I create a dedicated spot to work. A corner in my new home with stable internet, plenty of natural light, a comfortable chair and a desk, or a co-working space with good vibes – it doesn't matter as long as it separates work from chill time.
- Sleep Like a Queen: Nothing beats sliding into a comfy bed after a big day of work or exploring. For me, a comfortable place to sleep is a must. If I can't create a cozy space to sleep, I can't feel at home at all.
- Live Like a Local: Next, I hunt down a go-to grocery store, chill cafes, good restaurants, and all that jazz. Stocking up on familiar ingredients, having my tea ritual, and whipping up a healthy meal is a surprisingly grounding experience.
- Get Sweaty: Exercise is key! Whether it's a good walk, a morning jog, a local gym class, or whatever I feel like doing, staying active keeps me energized and feeling like myself.
Beyond the Basics: Building My Tribe
Now, let's add some social magic. Even as a strong introvert, finding my "people" makes any place feel like home. I join a running club, a cycling club, an entrepreneur group, or that weekly board game night at the pub. These connections create a sense of belonging and make exploring a new area even more fun.
Pro Tip: I Avoid Being a Tourist Tornado
While location-hopping can be fun, staying in one place for a month (at least!) allows your routine to take root. Think of it like planting seeds – the longer you stay, the more comfortable it becomes. Starting with a decompression week or two also helps – it allows you to adjust and explore without feeling overwhelmed.
In the End: Home Is a Feeling, Not a Place
With a solid routine, a comfy bed, and a sprinkle of local connections, I can create a sense of belonging anywhere in the world.
So give it a try and make home a feeling you carry with you, ready to be built wherever life takes you!
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